Category Archives: Psychotherapy

What is Cognitive Behavior (or Behavioral Therapy)

The deceptive demon of psychotherapy is the persistent belief among many practitioners that it is essential to understand the life history of the client before he/she canhelp or her with his/her presenting problems.  This is not only untrue, unsupported by research, but potentially harmful to the client.  Psychotherapy cannot change the past, it cannot discharge unconscious conflicts, or magically change personality flaws.  Instead, therapy can change the way you think, the way you view your life  — both in the present and in the past.  Therapy can also change the way one reacts to problems and behaves in the fact of adversity.

CBT or cognitive behavior therapy accomplishes the very essential goal of therapy — to help you change the way you think and behave.  All negative emotions, ALL, stem from your attitudes, beliefs, and your personal philosophy.  Change these, and your greatest terrors will become mundane.  CBT in any of its modern incarnations REBT, CT, CBT, et al all require that the therapist actively seeking to find those aspects of your cognitions and behavior that are leading to your distress and underachievement.   Having discovered those the therapist collaboratively helps you change them.  Indeed, most of the human brain works non-consciously -BUT THESE NON CONSCIOUS PROCESSES CANNOT BE ADDRESSED IN THERAPY!

Psychotherapy must accept that the clients conscious constructs and view of the world is real and under his/her control.  To pretend that the therapist’s presence in the room will magically heal through some magic called transference is simply not true.  Naturally, it makes the therapist a regal shaman like figure if the client belies that his/her sitting and nodding will cure all ills.  But this does nothing more than wax the ego of the therapist.  If you want to change, it takes work on your part and the part of the person you are paying to help you effect this change.

Help people with cognitive behavioral psychotherapy (CBT)

Dr. Abrams’ approach, is to help people with cognitive behavioral psychotherapy (CBT). This well-researched psychotherapy helps people change the aspects of their thinking and behaving that leads to anxiety, depression, and intimacy problems. It is a humanistic approach in that it accepts the client’s own construction of the world as being unique and important.. Dr. Mike Abrams’ and Dr. Lidia Abrams’ pragmatic and genuine approach is to help people understand those aspects of their personal philosophy, their beliefs, and their world view that are working to create fear, anguish, sexual, relationship or confidence problems. CBT helps people change his or her perspective in such a way so as to allow them to better enjoy life, improve their confidence, mood, and social functioning. Drs. Abrams have practiced this, taught this, and wrote on it for more than a quarter of a century; In addition, they are the among the only psychotherapists in Northern New Jersey who are board certified in these methods. With more than 25 years as psychologists in NJ they help with psychotherapy, counseling, sex therapy, couples counseling, and life coaching