The deceptive demon of psychotherapy is the persistent belief among many practitioners that it is essential to understand the life history of the client before he/she canhelp or her with his/her presenting problems. This is not only untrue, unsupported by research, but potentially harmful to the client. Psychotherapy cannot change the past, it cannot discharge unconscious conflicts, or magically change personality flaws. Instead, therapy can change the way you think, the way you view your life — both in the present and in the past. Therapy can also change the way one reacts to problems and behaves in the fact of adversity.
CBT or cognitive behavior therapy accomplishes the very essential goal of therapy — to help you change the way you think and behave. All negative emotions, ALL, stem from your attitudes, beliefs, and your personal philosophy. Change these, and your greatest terrors will become mundane. CBT in any of its modern incarnations REBT, CT, CBT, et al all require that the therapist actively seeking to find those aspects of your cognitions and behavior that are leading to your distress and underachievement. Having discovered those the therapist collaboratively helps you change them. Indeed, most of the human brain works non-consciously -BUT THESE NON CONSCIOUS PROCESSES CANNOT BE ADDRESSED IN THERAPY!
Psychotherapy must accept that the clients conscious constructs and view of the world is real and under his/her control. To pretend that the therapist’s presence in the room will magically heal through some magic called transference is simply not true. Naturally, it makes the therapist a regal shaman like figure if the client belies that his/her sitting and nodding will cure all ills. But this does nothing more than wax the ego of the therapist. If you want to change, it takes work on your part and the part of the person you are paying to help you effect this change.